Small Group Pointers

Our 2010-2011 small Group season has officially begun at Denbigh. Well, except for the “improve your marriage” marriage small group that will begin on September 30 (we wanted to give folks a little extra time to get their marriages in line before we start talking about them. We had a great “first group” experience over at the Tanner’s Sunday night. I don’t know how large a small group can become before it is no longer “small,” but we may end up having to come up with a definition before we’re done.

Have you not joined one of our Body Life small groups? Maybe you are waiting to find our which group had the best deserts before you commit to picking a group. I thought I’d give you a little help in making your small group decision by sharing some of Jon Acuff’s (from his Stuff Christians Like blog) pointers about “Things to keep in mind as you join a new small group.”

  • The first night you go to a new small group is like a first date. Try not to openly sob on that night. Imagine how great a first date would go if you started sobbing before they even brought out the blooming onion at Outback.

  • You have an 87% chance that there will be a couple in your group who has been married for about 15 minutes.

  • You have an 89% chance that couple will attempt to give you marriage advice they have culled from their 15 minutes of marriage.

  • Be upfront about your age when finding a group. Age, parenthood and location are usually the three main criteria groups are built on. We failed to mention our age early on, prompting one guy to say when we did, “Yeah, but you don’t look that old.”

  • Nothing brings a group together like an arch nemesis. Feel free to find a shared enemy small group that you can prank.

  • Be the person that has the best small group dessert, but don’t overdo it. We once went to a small group that had a four course meal of the most elaborate finger food I’ve ever had. If at any point you find yourself wrapping food in bacon in preparation for small group, pull back a little.

  • Try to make your personal introduction shorter than an average sermon. No one needs to know about that time you got bit by a rat on the foot in the seventh grade. Unless you lost the foot or kept the rat and have it with you.

  • Don’t tweet or blog stuff about the group without their permission. No one likes to read about themselves unexpectedly on Twitter.

  • Every group has certain people in it. (The person who cries, the Theologian, the “but is that really so bad?” crazy person, etc.”) Make sure you know where you fit in.

Well, I’m sure that was very helpful for all of us. Now-- go out and find a small group to join! If you can’t find one, create one. Roger will be happy to teach it.