A Servant's Heart
Evidently Tim Tebow, out-spoken Christian and famous back-up quarterback, has created something of a controversy. Again. He was recently interviewed by Vogue (so you could guess that this was not about the mechanics of running the Wildcat option offense in the NFL). He was asked about football, like his supposed rivalry with starting Jets quarterback Mark Sanchez (there evidently isn't one, "I can say that honestly I’m rooting for him to do his best"). No what raised eyebrows was the answer to a question about the future Mrs. Tebow-
Obviously looks play a big part. Being attracted to someone plays a big part, but there's also so much more than that for me. It's about finding someone sweet and kind – and that has a servant's heart. It's about finding a girl who likes me for me, and not because of what I do or who I am or the name.
So was it bad for him to admit that he was so shallow that he was looking for someone who was attractive? There's nothing wrong marrying someone who is drop-dead gorgeous; I did! (Of course, I am thankful my wife didn't have the same hang-ups on physical attractiveness). So what's the problem here? Well, it was OBVIOUSLY sexist and chauvinistic for Tebow to suggest that his future wife have "a servant's heart." That is the same things, of course, as saying he wants someone who is subservient and servile. The secular press decided "servant’s heart" means he wants a wife with no mind of her own who bakes cookies and does what he tells her. As one critic put it
He basically made it seem like he wants some hot woman who dropped straight from 50 Shades Of Grey and will do what he wants and not talk back and certainly not mention that he is currently sitting on the bench
OK, never mind that earlier in the interview Tebow said that he had "been blessed to have an amazing mom and two amazing sisters-so they set a very high standard." Never mind that he said "I want to have a life that can help people" (in other words, he wants a servant's heart). The fact that he was looking for a girl with a "servant’s heart" proves that he has a twisted, patriarchal view of women.
No, what it means is that he has a Christian view of life and marriage. Jesus told his followers that He Himself "did not come to be served but to serve" and that "whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave" (See Matt 20:26-28). Paul said, "serve one another humbly in love" (Gal 5:13). Peter tells disciples "Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace" (1 Pet 4:10). Having a servant's heart is something that all Christian's should want to have.
So when Tim Tebow suggests to his interviewer that he is looking for a wife with a servant’s heart, he is simply saying that wants to marry a Christian. Good for you, brother! Keep on looking and keep on praying—one day you’ll find her. Just one word of advice during your search, Tim. Keep your shirt on!